Hubby and I met seven years ago at my 21st birthday celebration. I was the one guzzling pitchers of beer – he was the one in eyeliner. It wasn’t love at first sight, but it quickly turned into more. We decided to get married after dating for about three years because we knew we would have a difficult time conceiving and we wanted to get started. (Hubby needs a kidney transplant and his health issues effect his sperm count).
Shortly before our wedding we tossed out the birth control and started TTC. After about two years we started to get upset and had Hubby’s sperm tested – 2million with 90% abnormal or not swimming. Crap! We were screwed.
We continued trying on our own, hoping for a miracle, while also looking into donor sperm and foster adoption. It took Hubby a long time (and a few sessions with a marriage counselor) to come around to the idea, but we finally started the process to adopt and also started trying with donor IUI.
In the end my family was horrible to us and had nothing nice to say about the child that we had chosen to adopt. We finally decided that it would be unfair to that child to bring him into another situation where he wouldn’t be fully accepted. We were crushed.
After two donor IUI cycles with BFNs we decided that maybe there was an issue with my fertility as well, and we ended up at a fertility clinic. Much to our surprise, they were willing to offer us an IVF cycle at a 60% discount (IVF was something we NEVER thought we would be able to afford before). We decided to give it one shot, and implanted three embryos and froze a fourth. All three took!
Sadly, we lost one of the babies at 10 weeks. Our beautiful twin girls were born on September 23, 2008 via emergency c-section (the whole pregnancy was rocky after we lost the triplet). They were 10 weeks premature. After 7 weeks in the NICU, one week home, and then another week in Peds for severe apnea…we finally have our little princesses home with us and we are loving every moment of it.
In March we got a HUGE surprise – we are pregnant again. All on our own this time! How did this happen? We don’t care…we’ll take it!
Nolan was born on 11/05/2009 (two weeks early because he was pushing on mommy’s ribs and causing EXTREME pain). He weighed 7 lbs 6oz and, despite the fact that we were told that he would be born with Down’s Syndrome (he wasn’t), is the picture of health (knock on wood). He has been breastfeeding like a champ since day one.
Evelynn and Lennon are approaching two years old and Evelynn is doing very well at this point. Lennon, however, continues to struggle. We knew from our very first ultrasound at 6 weeks that Lennon was going to have “issues” – her amniotic fluid was low and the doctors advised us to “reduce”. We refused. Lennon was born with metopic craniosynostosis and a bicuspid heart valve. On August 13th 2009 she underwent a major operation to reconstruct her face and skull (you can read about her journey here). Prior to her surgery she was experiencing excessive intracranial pressure and was having seizures (or something that looked very much like seizures), vomiting, and was displaying many symptoms of autism. Since her surgery she has made HUGE improvements in all of these areas. However, my mommy “gut” tells me to not relax quite yet…I’m not 100% satisfied that we have addressed everything that we need too. Lennon still struggles with eating and has a hard time putting on weight. Since her surgery she has a tremor in her left hand and ptosis (a drooping eye lid, which is only noticable in pictures). Plus, we still have the heart condition to consider. While I’m afraid we haven’t quite gotten “there” yet, I am confident that Lennon will get there. She’s been a fighter since her conception.
Hubby received his kidney transplant on 04/05/2010. It got off to a rocky start but is now doing very well and we couldn’t be more trilled!